https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-ypmsw-f0d652 Welcome to the inaugural episode of Mentally Speaking! Raising mental health awareness one mind at a time. Contrary to popular belief, uncomfortable feelings, like depression, anxiety and frustration, are not something to avoid or talk yourself out of. In fact, the opposite is true. They exist to make sure you get your needs met. … Continue reading Negative feelings are not your enemy
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How this is different and why it matters.
I joined the Army late in life, at the age of 42. In announcing this decision, the first response I would always get was "Why?" While I feared my answer would sound hokey, I told the truth: because I wanted to be part of something bigger than myself and to have a larger impact. It … Continue reading How this is different and why it matters.
The Art of De-Escalation
de•es•ca•late [de-es-kuh-leyt] verb (with or without object), to decrease in intensity, magnitude, etc. As a Social Work Officer at Fort Bragg, my primary mission was the Family Advocacy Program, the Army's solution for addressing domestic violence. When recounting a domestic incident, I was struck by how Soldiers described what happened. They never said, "I was … Continue reading The Art of De-Escalation
The New York Times Owes Americans an Apology: Shutting Down Mental Health Experts Amounts to Journalistic Malpractice
I'm the last person in the world who believes in conspiracy theories. So if anyone had told me what I read in Joshua Kendell's article, "Muzzled by Psychiatry in a Time of Crisis: The Man in the White Coat, The New York Times and The Stifling of the Public Debate about Donald Trump's Fitness to … Continue reading The New York Times Owes Americans an Apology: Shutting Down Mental Health Experts Amounts to Journalistic Malpractice
Trump Dissected, a Series: Mirroring
Photo credit: SplinterNews.com Magic mirror on the wall, who is the fairest one of all? - Brothers Grimm A boy comes running home crying, "Daddy, I fell off my bike!" His dad replies, "Well, you should be more careful next time." Not earth-shatteringly inappropriate, but consider the underlying message: the boy did something wrong and is … Continue reading Trump Dissected, a Series: Mirroring
Dear America: an unusual plea for help
If I sound desperate, I am. I've tried everything I can think of - reason, confrontation, repetition, humor - to reach you. It's not in my nature to give up. In fact, just thinking about it, depresses me. So, this time, I'm writing to ask for help. But it's not the usual kind of help … Continue reading Dear America: an unusual plea for help
Magnificent Obsession: a plea to Mike Bloomberg, Pete Buttigieg, Tulsi Gabbard, Amy Klobuchar, Bernie Sanders, Tom Steyer and Elizabeth Warren to support Joe Biden
Hear me out. Please.If there's one thing Americans can agree on it's how divided we are. Theories abound as to why, mostly in the form of finger-pointing. Solutions from government officials, media consultants and civic leaders are bantered about like intellectual sport. The anger is palpable. I'm no politician but, as a former Army Behavioral Health … Continue reading Magnificent Obsession: a plea to Mike Bloomberg, Pete Buttigieg, Tulsi Gabbard, Amy Klobuchar, Bernie Sanders, Tom Steyer and Elizabeth Warren to support Joe Biden
The Most Dangerous Man in America: It’s Not Who You Think
Some readers may remember Congresswoman Connie Morella. I grew up in her district. I used to quip she was a "Republican in name only." She even voted against impeaching President Bill Clinton. Morella served eight terms before being defeated by then-State Senator Chris Van Hollen.While I understood the Democratic Party's desire to bolster its caucus, … Continue reading The Most Dangerous Man in America: It’s Not Who You Think
Impeachment: Right Idea, Wrong Remedy
I started writing this article back in July, 2019, right after Donald Trump "approved military strikes on Iran, then pulled back..." According to the New York Times (and other media outlets), "planes were in the air and ships were in position but no missiles had been fired..."¹ At the time, I wrote, "This breaking news, … Continue reading Impeachment: Right Idea, Wrong Remedy
Ditch Your Inner Bully
You've just left a meeting or an evening out with friends. As you're walking away, you feel a rush of anxiety. Then it shows up: that voice in your head - rehashing what happened, anticipating what will happen, second-guessing your actions, trying to mind-read others' thoughts, and calling you names - like an addiction or … Continue reading Ditch Your Inner Bully