I joined the Army late in life, at the age of 42. In announcing this decision, the first response I would always get was “Why?” While I feared my answer would sound hokey, I told the truth: because I wanted to be part of something bigger than myself and to have a larger impact. It wasn’t until I entered the Army that I realized my motivation was not hokey at all, or abnormal.
As a clinical social worker, I have been writing articles about Donald Trump’s mental health for over two years. Nevertheless, when I read Jeffrey Goldberg’s report in the Atlantic Monthly, even I was shocked by the level of pathology in Trump’s remarks. It’s one thing to completely lack empathy. Given the obvious diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, I knew that about Trump. But this was more disturbing. This was outright contempt. I hardly slept that night.
Some will try to make this political. It isn’t. I love this country and what it stands for so much, it’s visceral. On TDY once, I remember watching other passengers waiting for our flight and thinking how blissfully ignorant they were. And yet, this is why men and women serve: so Americans can live their lives. Although my time in the Army was short, it remains one of the proudest and most defining experiences of my life. Servicemembers don’t ask for praise because we’re not doing it to be acknowledged. We don’t ask for reward because the pride of serving our country is reward enough. But Veterans do deserve respect for their courage and sacrifice.
So I ask you this: how can someone who not only fails to understand but doesn’t even value the courage and sacrifice of Servicemembers be put in charge of deciding their fate? In interviews and in his book, Call Sign Chaos: Learning to Lead, General Jim Mattis describes a handwritten card he kept on his desk while serving as CENTCOM Commander at the Pentagon. It asked the following question: “Will this commitment contribute sufficiently to the America people to justify putting our troops in a position to die?” In contrast, Donald Trump would apparently regard troops as suckers for risking their lives simply to protect the American people, and would regard them as losers if they returned injured or in a body bag.
When asked the hardest part of their job, every US president before Trump responded: deciding if and when to put troops in harms way because they understood troops lives were in their hands. How can the American people ask these brave men and women – moms, dads, brother’s, sisters, husbands, wives, aunts, uncles – to put their lives in the hands of someone who regards their sacrifice essentially as a sucker’s bet? If nothing else disqualifies Donald Trump from retaining the duty of Commander-In-Chief, this does. Servicemembers deserve at least this.